On Fire and Over 50!
We are celebrating our second birthday!
Two wonderful years of writing blogs and meeting new people.
I love what I do and I hope you love it, too.
This past year has been a great one for On Fire. More people are reading On Fire and the feedback is wonderful. Over this past year, I think my writing has improved in many ways. The most important way is that I have provided blogs on topics you need and want, and have asked for. It thrills me to know that I have helped someone with an issue, problem, or life stage. The only way I know what you need is when you tell me. Tell me your issues, share your thoughts with me, let me know what you want and need. Thank you for your input.
(I want to celebrate with some humor and share a gift with you, so hang with me till the end! 🙂)
The humor, hoping this will give you a few laughs and also encouragement.
"If I had to live my life again, I'd make the same mistakes, only sooner."
- Tallulah Bankhead -
"If you could kick the person in the pants responsible for most of your trouble, you wouldn't be able to sit for a month."
- Theodore Roosevelt -
"Happiness is having a large loving, caring, close-knit family
in another city."
- George Burns -
If you're killed, you've lost a very important part of your life."
- Brooke Shields -
"Older people shouldn't eat health food,
they need all the preservatives they can get."
- Robert Orben -
Now that I've made you laugh (hopefully), here's my little gift to you:
In the picture above, of me at the beach, you will notice two things right away. The first thing is I am not in the picture of me at the beach from three years ago and the second thing is I am in the picture from this past week.
Now to explain. Three years ago I refused to allow my photo to be taken at the beach. I was over weight and out of shape. I was not happy and I felt awful. I closed my eyes to the fact that I had let my health deteriorate and I had gained so much weight that I looked terrible no matter what I wore. So, every picture of the beach in the past is of everything and everyone - except me. You will not find a picture of me at the beach during that time of my life.
This year was different. Two years ago I took my life back. I cleared it of the negatives that were dragging me down and went back to taking care of myself. Before moving to North Carolina, I always worked out, ate right, and had a positive outlook on life – even when faced with problems or negatives. A few years after moving here, something changed. For one thing I went through the empty nest syndrome and the other was menopause. They both hit me simultaneously. I also experienced serious health issues concerning my husband, daughter, and parents on both sides. All this amidst squabbling within our extended families.
I pulled myself inward when I couldn't find support in my limited community. It was me and God and for some reason my faith was failing. I felt alone. Then about three years ago, I got tired of it. I spent a year analyzing and evaluating my life and decided to change it. To return to my “roots” of health and happiness. It took a full year to get my mind in the right place. I had to work through various issues and find resolve. Once it was done, I was a new woman and ready to hit the road running.
Today, I am healthy and happy. I love life again, and my faith is restored, not only in God, but also my fellow man. I have lost weight, exercise everyday, eat healthy, and have plans for the future. Health issues are still there concerning some of my family members, but I can handle them now.
The gift of knowing that you can do anything you set your mind to,
if you want it bad enough.
Health issues may come and go,
happiness may fade,
faith may be tested,
but anyone can come out the other side of depression or pain
a better person - happier, healthier and stronger than ever.
I am proof.
The following helped me a great deal once I learned the true meaning of it. Read this and apply it, it is helpful in healing and creating the life you want:
(NOTE: Christian or not, this is good advice for everyone. This is taken from the King James Version of the Holy Bible, but you don't have to be a Christian to realize that this advice is lifesaving.)
“...whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report: if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.”
In other words, do not let yourself be dragged into negativity. Even in the worst of times, think on the positive. Think on things that lift you up. When you are up, you can help others be lifted up also.
“...in respect of want;
for I have learned,
in whatsoever state I am,
(therewith) to be content.”
In other words, we may want our circumstances to be different than they are, in reality they may never change. We should, however, be content in whatsoever state or circumstance we are in and focus on the positive as much as possible.
And finally, the one statement that I repeat over and over to myself as I go through this unpredictable, changing, and challenging life:
“I can do all things
who strengthens me.”
I am Christian, so I take this statement for it's face value, but if you are not a Christian it still applies. In all things that you do or find yourself involved with, turn to the thing that gives you strength, peace, and hope. Whatsoever or whosoever it may be, draw strength from that.
Now go out into world
with hope and happiness
for your on fire life!
Are you ready to make a change? Are you seeking to improve yourself? Do you have a story of healing or re-inventing yourself that you want to share with the rest of us? Remember, we can draw strength from each other and help each other if we share our experiences and thoughts.