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Encouragement: End of the Month of Love With New Things Coming!

2/22/2019

The month of love is coming to an end.
It doesn't mean we can't take love into the remaining ten months of the new year. Every month can be a month of love no matter what our situation. It doesn't matter if you are married, divorced, widowed, never been married or separated from your loved one, you can still experience love. Love isn't just about romance and sex, it is about life and being in love with life.

Over the next year I am adding new blog topics.
Some of the topics include recipes and foods I found helpful when losing weight, volunteering and helping others, sexual issues that affect the over 50 with some solutions, the positive aspects of love and/or sex over the age of 50, traveling over the age of 50 both solo and with groups, and other topics by requests from
On Fire readers.

If you have a need, an idea, a suggestion for blog topics or any comments -
please email me here:

onfireandover50@gmail.com

I hope you stay with me and find the help, answers, inspiration, and encouragement that you need and want. I don't have all the answers but I can find people who can help and contribute.

Do you have a belief in love? Do you find love in living? Have you experienced a bad breakup or an exceptionally successful relationship? Do you have issues or needs about growing older? Questions about growing older? A lot of my blog topics have come from emails from my readers. I want this year to be a year of growing wiser!

XOXO

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Book Review: “As You're Going” by Brett Harig – His first book, a local author

2/15/2019

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Authors come from everywhere. I have met them selling jewelry at craft fairs, preaching sermons at churches, in book clubs at libraries, sitting next to me in theaters, lots of places. One place I never thought of as a place to meet an author was in my own bathroom putting in a new shower stall, but that's where I met Brett Harig and discovered a talented brand new author.
On the second day of my bathroom update project, he asked me where I went to church and that opened a whole conversation up about a book he wrote. I ordered his book from Amazon and it arrived a couple of days later. It's a short book and well written.

Brett writes about discipleship. He shares his personal experiences His message is that we should spend more time teaching others about Christ and less on the things that don't really matter. He stresses that we are responsible for the lives of others whether we teach them or we don't.

He had this to say about discipleship when I spoke with him further on this subject:

“It's never too late to start making disciples.
You will always be able to reach or teach someone I'll never be able to.
This is the great commission given to us all regardless of age.”

Brett Harig, December 8, 2018

He speaks of his “slump” and how he became disconnected from God. In the later chapters he discusses his sin of “pride”. Once Brett figured out his priorities, he regained his relationship with God.

While I don't agree with some of his thoughts on some scriptures in regard to the Holy Spirit, I do agree with him on his message and I love the way he expresses it. He uses his personal experiences to get the point across
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The Bible commissioned all of us to go out into the world and teach people the gospel. The problem is we do and we don't do this. We sometimes think that if we say “Come to church with me on Sunday” that's enough. It's not. It's more than that.

Teaching people the gospel as we have been commissioned to do is about living the life. Living the life that Christ instructs us to live. It includes going to services but it is so much more. It's helping others when they need help, feeding the hungry, visiting the sick and elderly, all those benevolent things...but it is so much more than that.

It's about living the life so that others will want to know how you do it. You live happy even when your world is crumbling around you; you live without some of the more expensive things in life that you really don't need, so that you can fund a project to feed the hungry and homeless. It's caring and doing.

The one element in all this caring and doing, is to teach about Christ. DO NOT PREACH or PRESSURE that is not discipling. To teach, all you need to do is remember Christ. For example, if you go out to eat lunch with a friend, ask if they would like to say a prayer for the food. If they say no, say may I? If they say no, then reply with a very polite, “no problem, give me a minute as I pray for myself,” then do it. That is teaching. You don't have to get into “Why can't I say a prayer with you or for you?” or “Well, I am going to pray anyway.” Be nice, be kind, but do it.

This is the message of Brett's book. The Bible says,

“Be wise as serpents, but harmless as doves.”

That's the plan.
Besides being a great plumber, Brett is a great writer. This is his first book and it touches on a subject that is often neglected. He found the words to teach us about being true disciples. This is a book about living what you teach and taking every opportunity to teach it.

While Brett is not over 50, his ideas in this book about living can be applied to the over 50 life. We should not simply go through life following the numbers, but we should go through life creating new numbers!

I asked Brett "why" he wrote this book, here is what he said:

"I wrote this book because that's where I was led to.
A couple of years ago I really disliked reading and writing.
That how I know it was from God because it was something I was comfortable with.
I felt there was a need to share the way God revealed to me to make disciples in a practical way."

Brett Harig, December 9, 2018

If you interested in Brett's book you can purchase it on Amazon.
( https://amzn.to/2AKA19b )

Be sure and leave Brett an Amazon review if you like it 🙂.
Do you appreciate and make the most of each day you have? Do you know how to effectively and practically teach others what you believe? Have you met a new author that you would like to tell us about? Introduce the On Fire Community to your new find.

XOXO

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Relationships: Yann Moix - Did he really dis all women over 50 as unlovable? His attractiveness score just went down to Zero - LOL

2/8/2019

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An article came out on January 8, 2019, from a french author named Yann Moix where he tells the world that he is not attracted to women his age. He finds women in their 20s more lovable and is attracted to their young perfect bodies. He went so far as to say that women over 50 are unlovable.

While some men will give an attractive young woman a second glance (sometimes), not all men feel like Moix - thankfully. They are wise enough to know that age has nothing to do with a good woman.

There are many young women who look beautiful on the outside, but inside they are selfish, conceited, and looking for Mr. Goodbar. Their beauty is superficial. (Note that I didn't say ALL young women, I said many.)

On the flip side, there are many older women who will shower her man with love in the form of caring for his needs. (Note that I didn't say ALL older women, I said many.)

The problem is, if a man completely eliminates a whole segment of women from his repertoire of dating options, he is limiting his chances of hitting the jackpot of love.

Wise men leave the door open for whoever may enter knowing that she may not be who he thought at first. She may be someone entirely different than he was thinking, but finds that she is perfect for him. A wise man also treats all women with respect and knows their individual value.

The other thing about wiser men than Moix,
is a wise man sees the beauty of every woman. He is looking at more than just her physical appearance or her youth. He is looking at her character, her compassion, her inner beauty.

Now, having said all that, we just learned about Jeff Bazos leaving his wife of 25 years for a younger woman. Is Jeff Bezos wise? Maybe, maybe not. He may be intelligent and smart, but not necessarily wise.

Wise is a special gift. Of course, that's not to say that there may have been other issues in the marriage, but it is also not that uncommon for an older man to need his ego massaged by a younger woman.

This was printed in a church bulletin that past week and I think it is excellent. This is a true and wise man as described by God and yes, they do exist:

Biblical masculinity means a husband loves his wife (Ephesians 5:25)
It frowns on men objectifying or lusting after other women (Matthew 5:28)
Biblical masculinity means that a man help train up his children (Proverbs 22:6)
It frowns on men who abandon their children (Proverbs 28:15)
Biblical masculinity means a man provides for his family and widowed parents (1 Timothy 5:8)
It frowns on men who do not work (2 Thessalonians 3:10)
Biblical masculinity means a man tries to be holy for God is holy (1 Peter 1:15-16)
It frowns on crude jokes and immorality (Ephesians 5:3-5)
Biblical masculinity means a man gives to the needy (1 John 3:17; Hebrews 13:16)
It frowns on men who waste money on materialism (1 John 2:15)
Biblical masculinity means a man protects his wife and children (Psalms 82:3-4)
It frowns on men who despise children (Matthew 18:10; Psalm 127:3)
Biblical masculinity means a husband recognizes the differences between he and his wife (1 Peter 3:7)
It frowns on men who do not honor their wives (Ephesians 5:33)
Biblical masculinity means a man prays for his family (Philippians 4:6; 1 Thessalonians 5:17)
It frowns on a man who is prideful thinking he can do it on his own (Proverbs 16:18)
Biblical masculinity means a man is the spiritual leader of his home (Ephesians 6:4)
It frowns on men who delegates this command to their wives (1 Timothy 2:11-12)
Biblical masculinity means a man devotes his life to making sure his family members are in the book of life (Revelation 20:11-15)
It frowns on men who allow their children to love the world and walk out onto the broad way (Matthew 7:13-14)

(Church Bulletin Article by Brad Harrub)

To me, God has set forth the guidelines for masculinity and he knows better than anyone would. Too bad most of the world rejects, ignores, or tries to change his word. A lot of men will make excuses for not being a masculine Godly man.

Do you believe in the masculine male of the scriptures? Do you know a masculine male? Do you know a “toxic masculine male”? Do you believe the term “boys will be boys” and that males can't help their “bad” behavior because it's in their natural nature? Share your thoughts and experiences.

XOXO

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Life: February is the Month of Love - Why Can't Every Month Be a Month of Love?

2/1/2019

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Love. Everyone wants and needs love. There are all kinds of love and all kinds of ways to receive love. There's family love, pet love, and romantic love. There is the love of friendship and of mankind. Love is unlimited.

When we to put limits on love, that's when we have problems. Humans are capable of feeling all kinds of love all at the same time. We can love our son at the same time that we love our daughter with the same kind of love. We can love our sweet dog as the same time we love that new pink rose on our front yard bush though not the same kind of love. Love is an amazing thing.

As we get older, we have learned to appreciate those we love and the things we love more and to protect that love more. As we get older, we have learned that life if fleeting and that person we love today may not be here tomorrow, so we take extra care to show them we love them.

Sounds good, right? Then why are there so many older parents in nursing facilities that never get a visit from their children? Why is it that an older man suddenly after 40 years of marriage trades his older wife in for a younger one? Why is that when faced with caring for an aging parent or spouse, we walk away or hand it off to strangers?

Because of love...a lack of true love. A lack of the love that God talks about in his book. It's easy to love a beautiful young vibrant wife or parent, a bit harder to love that older cranky wife or parent who may not feel good most days.

Let's work hard to make every day a day of love! Every moment a loving moment. Especially as we get older, we need it more than ever. Think how good you will feel about yourself when that loved one passes and you know in your heart you did all you could to make them happy right up to the end. It takes work. It takes true love.

Love your family now while they are still with you and you with them.

I have a motto that I live by and try hard to be faithful to:

“Make every moment count!”

Make every moment count and every day a day of love! How do you make every day a day of love? Do you find it difficult or easy to spread love throughout the year? What's you favorite Valentine's Day surprise or gift? Share a Valentine Day memory.

XOXO

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Encouragement: End of the Month of Love With New Things Coming!

Book Review: “As You're Going” by Brett Harig – His first book, a local author

Relationships: Yann Moix - Did he really dis all women over 50 as unlovable? His attractiveness score just went down to Zero - LOL

Life: February is the Month of Love - Why Can't Every Month Be a Month of Love?

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Encouragement: End of the Month of Love With New Things Coming!

Book Review: “As You're Going” by Brett Harig – His first book, a local author

Relationships: Yann Moix - Did he really dis all women over 50 as unlovable? His attractiveness score just went down to Zero - LOL

Life: February is the Month of Love - Why Can't Every Month Be a Month of Love?

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